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Some Timeless Advice

By Mary O’Brien, M.D.

How’s your bank balance doing these days?  More importantly, how’s your emotional balance doing?  Incessant political nastiness, market swoons, natural disasters, urban decline, violent crime, geo-political tensions, ever-expanding congestion, traffic, and professional pressures are weighing on all of us.  And we haven’t even mentioned the personal stresses of illness, family strife, teenage traumas, aging parents, and relationship struggles.  At least there doesn’t seem to be a massive asteroid threatening our existence.  That was a joke.

Most of us have learned that taking only withdrawals from a bank account does not work well.  Sooner or later we need to make some deposits.  The same principle applies to our emotional balance.  The stresses we face in everyday life represent withdrawals from our emotional reserve.  We need to balance those withdrawals with some regular deposits.  And that, unfortunately, is not always so easy or obvious.

Emotional depletion has consequences.  Eventually it can compromise our immune, neuroendocrine, and cardiovascular systems.  Since millions of us are experiencing emotional depletion, we need to be intentional about restoring our emotional account balance.  Here are a few ideas:

  • Take a deep breath and slow down long enough to realize you’re running on empty.
  • Disconnect from your devices, social media, and TV for several hours. If this causes undue stress, you know you’re emotionally depleted.
  • Spend at least 15-20 minutes each day in a natural setting. Remember nature?
  • Let go of anger, resentment, and criticism. No one can experience love, joy, or peace when he or she is consumed with negative thoughts and emotions.
  • Do something physical and useful. Clean out a closet, spruce up the yard, bake cookies, wash the car.  As long as it gets you up and moving and has tangible results (not staring at a screen), it will help.
  • Call or visit with a sympathetic person who will truly listen and encourage you. Texting doesn’t count.
  • Do something thoughtful and unexpected for another person.
  • Forgive everyone.

If all else fails, remember some timeless advice from Abraham Lincoln, “This too shall pass.”  It always does.