A Precious, Healing Balm

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By Mary O’Brien, M.D.

It’s not on Amazon.com.  None of the brick and mortar stores have it.  You won’t find it in a catalogue.  It’s not available at a bank or hospital.  This elixir is so rare and valuable you couldn’t even talk your doctor into giving you a prescription for it.  That’s just as well because no pharmacist would know how to fill it.  This vanishing and precious healing balm is silence.

We are addicted to noise.  It’s nearly impossible to escape.  Incessant noise bombards us in the workplace, the grocery store, the drug store, airports, waiting rooms, and neighborhoods.  People bring their own noise with them everywhere they go — just in case there might not be enough ambient noise.  People can’t even go for a walk without portable noise.  Years ago, Max Picard wrote, “Nothing has changed the nature of man so much as the loss of silence.”

He was right.  Silence gives rise to the very rhythm and harmony of life.  Without silence, there is no calm, comforting stability.  Chaos is, by its very nature, noisy.  Consider the floor of any stock exchange.  Everything is noisy and chaotic, and yet markets crave stability.  Most people crave stability whether they recognize it or not.  Perhaps we use noise to avoid facing the deepest truths about ourselves.

Many of us are familiar with Henry David Thoreau’s quote, “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation.”  The American writer James Thurber tweaked that sentiment in 1956, writing, “Most men lead lives of noisy desperation.”  Given our current culture, that’s probably more accurate.  Anyone who has lost electrical power for even 20 minutes knows that feeling of desperate frustration.  We want our gadgets to function.  We want our noise.

Oddly enough, when we’re sick or in pain, we usually want peace and quiet.  Could it be that silence is therapeutic?  That concept seems foreign to many people today, but it’s worth considering.  Silence is indeed a precious, healing balm.  It lies at both the center of the universe and the human heart.  Maybe, one day we’ll catch on.

The Root of the Problem

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By Mary O’Brien, M.D.

Dozens of people are dead.  Dozens more are wounded.  Grief and shock have gripped the citizens of El Paso, Dayton, and the rest of the nation.  Politicians, as usual, will blame their opponents and insist more legislation is the answer.  They are misguided.  The answer begins with understanding the real root of the problem.  And the real root of the problem is complex.

We must ask a forbidden question:  What is normal?  Is normal defined by centuries of acceptable behavior?  Is normal that which enables individuals to form a stable, productive society?  Over the past 50 years, we have tossed aside our ideas of normal:  traditional marriage; nuclear families; the sanctity of life; respect for elders, authority, and other people.  We have ridiculed religion and tradition as old-fashioned, useless burdens.  We now worship fame and outrageous antics.  Young people lead virtual lives online, often devoid of any actual friends.  Hyped-up, exaggerated, and downright fictitious lifestyles are posted nonstop in a frantic effort to achieve celebrity status.  Many young people are desperate for attention.  Their behavior, however, often leads to rejection and isolation.  Everyone experiences rejection and isolation, but normal people gradually mature and learn how to cope.  They adjust their behavior in an acceptable, productive manner.

Unfortunately, when time-tested values and institutions are stripped away and replaced by whatever is bizarre, nasty, violent, vulgar, or self-indulgent, the results are disastrous.  Unstable, angry, young men with fragile psyches cannot spend endless hours playing “first person shooter games” without consequences.  Many of us over the age of 40 are completely unaware of how realistic and gruesome many video games have become.  We’re not talking about cartoon characters.  Virtual people and real people blend into one another.  Combine this with mental illness, anger, hatred, drugs, and a complete lack of any moral compass, and the results can be horrific.

Angry, unstable, amoral people should not have access to guns.  But sooner or later, we need to address the real root of the problem.  There is such a thing as “normal.”  Most of us are still sane enough to recognize its absence.